Magnetic personalities
Have you ever met someone with a magnetic personality? In any room, that person is usually the center of attention. People want to be around that person. Something about the person’s energy or personality is like a magnet to others.
Maybe you are someone with a magnetic personality. People are drawn to you. When there is something you desire, the circumstances and support you need seems to appear, and you are carried on a wave of positive energy to whatever you desire – or something even better.
In my own life, I’ve noticed that sometimes I feel magnetic and sometimes I do not. Sometimes everything I desire shows up easily and seemingly with little conscious effort on my part. Other times it seems that everything is a struggle. Perhaps you have had similar experiences – that your “magnetism” seems to be an up and down proposition.
Actually, it’s not. Let me explain.
Magnets at work
When you were in school, did you ever see magnets at work? I remember being fascinated when the science teacher sprinkled iron filings on a counter top. Then he placed a magnet on the counter. Magically, the iron filings arranged themselves around the magnet.
The magnet did not do anything. It just sat there. The iron filings moved. I was amazed. How could this object, the magnet, cause the iron filings to move?
There was something else. The science teacher put a wooden pencil by the magnet. Nothing happened. The pencil was not attracted to the magnet.
That’s the idea of magnetizing – to attract (not chase) that which you desire; to draw towards you those things, people, experiences and conditions that you desire, that are in alignment with your highest good.
The flip side is that you want to be neutral to, or repellent to, those things, people, experiences and conditions that you do not desire.
Like attracts like. Even magnets only attract certain things that are in alignment with their frequency or vibration.
Want to know what you are magnetizing? Look around.
Everything in your life – every object, every person, every experience – is something you have magnetized. Whatever you see is an accurate reflection of the frequency or vibration you are radiating, and that is what you are magnetizing.
You cannot NOT be magnetic. So although sometimes I feel like my magnetism is an “up and down” thing, it’s not. I am always magnetizing. So are you. The trick is to be consciously magnetic to those things, people, conditions and experiences that we would prefer to have in our lives and businesses.
I have a confession. On the days when I do not feel magnetic (read, I do not especially like what is showing up in my life), I blush to admit that I have been known to mutter and complain, sometimes for more than a few seconds.
But here’s what I have noticed.
Perhaps you have noticed this too.
Acknowledge and shift your focus
The more quickly I acknowledge that I have created this circumstance in my life, the more quickly I can change it. The more quickly I accept my responsibility, calmly and without self-blame, and the more quickly I acknowledge that I have the power to create and uncreate these circumstances, the more quickly and easily the circumstances begin to change.
The more quickly I can shift my energy to appreciation for all the amazing gifts in my life, the more quickly the circumstances improve. Perhaps it’s because I am noticing different things. In any case, it feels better and I am re-connected to my inner power.
There is lots more to say about this, and there will be more in future issues. In the meantime, here is a key point.
What you focus on expands
The more you focus attention on examples of what you desire that are already in your life, the more of what you desire you will attract into your life.
The more you focus attention on what you don’t want, the more of what you don’t want you will attract into your life.
What you resist strengthens. The more you resist something, the more that circumstance hangs around. What you accept, acknowledge and then release, begins to lose its power.
So… what do you want to magnetize in your business or your personal life?
Coaching challenge
Pick one thing you would like to magnetize in your business or personal life.
1. Imagine in as much detail as you can what it will be like for you when this is in your life.
2. Look for examples of this kind of thing that are already in your life. Appreciate and express gratitude for these gifts. Acknowledge that you magnetized these things into your life, and have the power to magnetize other similar things.
3. Be still and quiet for a few moments. Ask the wisest part of yourself, “What single action could I take today to move in the direction of magnetizing (whatever is your focus) into my life?”
4. Before you leave your “still and quiet” place, decide at what point in this day you will weave in that action.
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Is there something you wish you had not magnetized into your life?
1. Acknowledge that – for whatever reason (and you do not need to know the reason) – you have also magnetized this into your life. Calmly and without self-blame, state to yourself that you had the power to create this circumstance and you would now prefer to release it.
2. Imagine what your life will be like when this circumstance is no longer part of it.
Look for parts of your life where this circumstance does not exist.
Appreciate and express gratitude for those parts of your life. Acknowledge that you had the power to create those parts of your life, and can create those positive circumstances in other parts of your life too.
3. Be still and quiet for a few moments. Ask the wisest part of yourself, “What single action can I take today to help release the undesired circumstance from my life and create more of the circumstances I desire?”
4. Before you leave your “still and quiet” place, decide at what point in this day you will weave in that action.
Going global
The idea of magnetizing -- that like attracts like, and that what we focus on expands -- has a global application.
We need to focus on what we do want in the world, rather than what we don’t want.
I do not mean to ignore, minimize or deny the problems and miseries of the world. But I am uneasy about strategies that focus on what we are against – whether at the organization, community, national or global level.
Just as in our personal lives, rather than to rail against what we do not like, it is far more productive to acknowledge and then release our attention on those things that we do not prefer, and then re-focus our attention and actions on what we do want.
And of course, as Gandhi said…
Be the change you want to see in the world.
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