The mystery
So there I was, after a supposedly “fun” gathering of friends, and I was totally wiped out. Exhausted. Even a little depressed. What happened?
I re-played the evening in my mind and couldn’t figure it out. There were great people, great food, great music, some interesting conversations, lots of dancing…
The next day, I saw one of the other people who had been at the gathering. I told her about feeling kind of “down” afterwards, and that I was kind of mystified by that.
She asked, “Who did you talk to?” I listed off some of the people I’d had conversations with. “Ah,” she said. “I bet I know what happened.”
She proceeded to tell me about “psychic vampires” – and she believed one of them was at the event. She named a name. As I started paying attention over the next weeks, I noticed that , though this person seemed so charming and engaging on the outside, I always felt “less than” or “drained” or “depleted” whenever I spent time with him. “Psychic vampire” was a pretty good description of his effect on me.
What’s a psychic vampire?
A “psychic vampire” may not even know that he or she is one. It’s a person who, intentionally or not, sucks energy from other people. Sometimes it is a person who is simply very needy, and at an energetic level is constantly drawing on other people’s emotions, thoughts and vitality. Other times it is a person who actually enjoys depleting other people.
Either way, whether the person intends it or not, most people can find themselves feeling drained after contact with a psychic vampire.
As I’ve grown older and been much more conscious and attentive to the people I choose to spend time with, I have very few experiences of psychic vampires any more. Still, in random group settings, you never know who will be there. Here are a couple of things you might do in case a psychic vampire crosses your path.
Notice
Just notice how you feel before and after you are in contact with each person in your day or your week. Do you feel uplifted, happy and optimistic? Empowered and motivated? Or do you feel drained, anxious, uneasy or overwhelmed? If you notice that you feel “down” after spending time is some individuals, that person may have psychic vampire characteristics.
Protect yourself
If you know you must see someone who often drains your energy, pull down an “energy of protection” cylinder around yourself. State out loud or in your mind, “In this cylinder of protection, only good things can reach me. I am safe and protected physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.” (If it makes more sense to you, call it an imaginary pillar of protection. Then pretend that it works! In my own experience and my work with clients, I’ve observed that playfully pretending something works is usually very effective.)
Limit your contact
To the extent that it’s within your control, limit or eliminate your contact with people who drain you. When you are with them, don’t engage any more than necessary. Don’t get involved in an exchange of arguments or opinions. Don’t try to fix anything. Stay neutral and as detached as you can. You can be cordial and courteous and still not be drawn in.
Raise your vibration and send love
When you realize your energy is depleting or your emotions or thoughts or self-esteem are starting to be “downers,” consciously choose to raise your vibration. Choose to uplift your emotions to happy ones, your thoughts to positive ones and remember what a miracle you are. Then, from that confident, optimistic and loving place, consciously choose to send loving energy to the person. If you can’t do that with integrity, then imagine that a cosmic or universal source of love is streaming over and through the person.
Disconnect and then re-connect with Source
Imagine that any negative bonds between you and the other person are being disconnected from one another and then re-connected to the Universal Source of all creation. Imagine that Source Energy flowing through to both of you.
Give thanks
Express gratitude for having an experience that allows you to strengthen your ability to have power over your own thoughts, feelings, and energy no matter who is in the room!
Your coaching challenge
For the next week, notice how you feel before and after people you spend time with.
Are there any who always make you feel wonderful? Choose to spend more time with them.
Are there any that usually make you feel drained or depleted or down? Arrange to spend less or no time with them.
Practice using the techniques above to strengthen your “I can take charge of my own energy” muscles.
Going global
Can you think of places in your community, your country or the world where there appears to be a lot of dark and depleting energy? Send loving energy. And don’t go there in person until you’re a master of self-protection in all circumstances!
Yes, this psychic vampire is the new vampire on the block. Perhaps they will reach the sam level as the Twilight vamps someday. In the mean time, it is cool to learn as much about them as one can. I've heard of people feeling drained, but otherwise, they can't cause any harm. It's just that if you feel exhausted after spending time with a particular person, you may want to understand what happened.
I can recomend a great book that deals with Psychic vampires. It is Annie's Gift by Holden Herbert. It's a fun novel for those who like a little fright in their life, but it also talks a lot about how one is awakened to be a psychic vamp and what are soem of the things they can do. Check it out if you want a good read that is informative. Check it out on Amazon. I did and am glad I did. You will be too.
Posted by: Jerome | 12/21/2009 at 03:59 PM